Supporting You as You Heal from Broken Trust & Rebuild Your Relationship
An affair can leave you feeling hurt, confused, angry, and unsure of what comes next. Whether you are trying to repair your relationship, deciding whether to stay, or working through the impact of betrayal on your own, you do not have to navigate it alone. I provide a safe, non-judgmental space to process what happened, understand the impact of the betrayal, and work toward healing, clarity, and a path forward.
Common Affair Recovery Challenges I Support for Individuals & Couples
- Difficulty communicating about the affair and disclosure without conversations turning into blame, defensiveness, anger, or withdrawal
- Betrayal, shock, anger, or emotional overwhelm after discovering an affair
- Difficulty rebuilding trust, challenges with intimacy & connecting, unsure what to do next
- Intrusive thoughts, rumination, or repeatedly replaying what happened, making it difficult to feel settled or present
- Struggling to understand what happened and why, including trying to make sense of how the affair developed
- Feeling stuck between wanting to repair the relationship, letting go of the affair partner, and questioning whether you can stay, especially when emotions are still raw
- Rebuilding emotional and physical safety and trust after trust has been broken
- Guilt, shame, or regret for the partner who had the affair, and difficulty taking responsibility while working toward repair
Frequently Asked Questions About Affair Recovery, Infidelity, & Betrayal Support
What does affair recovery look like?
Using the Gottman Method, I help clients walk through three steps to rebuild trust and reconnect.
Step 1 (Atonement): I create a supportive and non-judgmental space for the “hurt partner” to ask questions about the affair and express their hurt & anger in a healthy manner. While it can be a painful process to revisit details, transparency and honestly lays the foundation of trust.
Step 2 (Attunement): We review what happened in the marriage # 1, and further understand underlying relationship issues (e.g., disconnection & avoidance) and healthy relationship tools that may have been missing.
Step 3 (Attachment): We build commitment as we rebuild marriage #2. We also create a plan for relapse with mutual understanding of consequences for re-engaging in future affairs.
Book a free introductory call using this booking link to get professional support.
I cheated on my spouse, what should I do?
Admitting that you broke trust can bring up guilt, shame, fear, and uncertainty about what happens next. You may be wondering whether your relationship can be repaired or how to even begin that conversation with your spouse. Whether you are hoping to repair your relationship or are unsure what comes next, therapy is a space that can help you navigate this difficult chapter with honesty, accountability, and care. Book a free introductory call so I can walk you through what type of support you may need (booking link).
I found out my spouse is cheating on me, what should I do?
Finding out that your spouse has betrayed you can turn your world upside down. You may feel shocked, angry, deeply hurt, anxious, or struggle to make sense of what happened. You may also blame yourself, wondering if it was somehow your fault they sought out someone else.
If both partners are willing, couples therapy can be helpful to guide you through tough conversations, understand the impact of the affair, and begin rebuilding trust. You can also seek individual support to get emotional support, help you make sense of what happened, and guide you through the next steps. Book a free introductory call so I can walk you through what type of support you may need (booking link).
Training & Certification:
Gottman Method Couples Therapy level 1 and 2, Treating Affair & Trauma (Gottman)
Emotionally Focused Therapy Externship, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy: Healing from Affairs Training